FOMO has been coined, because of the tactics of 21st Century culture. Because modern day life is filled with a variety of different opportunities. "Try this new product. Come and see this film. Visit our restaurant. We'd hate you to miss out." We are bombarded with ideas and images all of the time.
Sure, I've been sold things via advertising before. I've been subjected to it for pretty much all of my life.
However, here's the difference. Now they'll sell it to you with a large side order of guilt. You're going to kick yourself if you miss this." And it's not only the traditional forms of media that's giving me this message. I get it from my Facebook wall, from the emails pouring into my inbox. Friends will 'like' a particular page, thus producing an ad on my Facebook wall and trying to get me to come along for the ride. "One last chance to join in. Hurry - this is your last chance. Don't be disappointed..."
It's FOMO they are spreading. The Fear Of Missing Out.
And technology makes it worse. Because we are increasingly aware of what others are doing, and sometimes in minutiae, we become terribly aware of all the stuff that we aren't doing.
Thankfully, one bright spark came up with JOMO.
The "Joy Of Missing Out".
The wonderful realisation that you are not going to be there because you have made a positive choice not to go.
The incredible power that you have when you realise you don't have to do something, just because everyone else is doing it. You can be different. It's more than OK.
The delightful feeling that you have turned down something that matters, because something in your own life matters a whole lot more.
If I can truly embrace this - then all of a sudden I am wonderfully empowered - to say No once in a while. And not to feel guilty about saying it.
If I can do this, then regret no longer has any influence on me.