I can't possibly recall the number of times that I've been thanked - on the whole, people are usually quite kind. In response to a kindness shown, a gesture of sympathy, a gift given. It's nice to get an acknowledgement back .
However, there are one or two people that never seem to do this. And you are left feeling unsure whether the thing that you did was well received - whether it was somehow 'lacking' - whether the gift was discarded, thrown on a pile of other unwelcome gifts - or sometimes, if they ever received the gift at all!
And it's not just me (as I used to think!) - others tell me similar stories. Some people don't say "thank you".
I'm feeling for these people today. Actually, to tell the truth, I'm trying to understand them...
- Are they ungrateful?
- Do they expect my kindness as 'the least I could do'?
- Do they feel that it is below them to show any kind of appreciation?
- Is this lack of gratitude actually a sign of arrogance?
However, I still keep coming back to the conclusion that has been revealed to me in my quiet times. It doesn't matter. In fact, it's me who needs to respond. With forgiveness. Sure, sometimes I don't get those thanks. Or even any acknowledgement. But that's no good reason for me to stop caring.
I need to keep on trying. One day, I might get a heartfelt response when I least expect it.